II Tim. 2:16 Avoid godless, foolish discussions that lead to more and more ungodliness.
If a spiritual conversation does not help to enhance spiritual understanding and growth, then avoid it. It is non-productive to debate Scripture simply because we know we are right on how we interpret it and we are not willing to see it any other way but how we have been taught and believe. We are defensive by nature and are not open to a different way of seeing things. It is best to not get into discussions that we are not willing to learn from. It is true within church circles and especially true in the world.
Non-believers who are more interested in picking a fight over truth rather than listening to it will never let truth lead them to godliness. It is a waste of time to try and argue people out of darkness. The only way godless people will ever come into the Light is through the convicting work of the Holy Spirit. Rather than get into discussions with them that go nowhere, we should pray for them and ask the Lord to convict them of sin.
Godless discussions are those where the mind shuts out any consideration of God. The ears may hear, but the mind doesn’t listen. It is futility at its best. No matter how convincingly truth may be presented, if the hearer doesn’t have ears to hear, it won’t get through. The heart is hardened and will do anything it can to deny the truth.
People will pay more attention to how we live than what we say. Godless discussions can be shut out and refuted, but living Christ-like lives cannot be. Unless our living backs up what we say, we will not be heard. People will respect what you say when they learn to respect your life.